We all were brought up by our parents to always stay away from fake friends. They also told us that when we go through trying times, many people abandon us because they were just pretending to be our friends. Time shows us their true nature.
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How many of us actually face it in reality? Not always. Not upto the extent of being abandoned by almost everyone in our life.
Life is currently putting us all through some very difficult tests. We are all going through experiences which make us question a lot of our choices. It is also testing our relationships with family, neighbours, relatives, friends, and colleagues/peers.
People losing livelihoods, losing homes, losing money and investments - so much loss all around. This also eventually leads to losing people. Friends, just avoiding you because you are going through rough times and they aren't.
These fair weather friends are not really causing much damage, if you look at it closely and logically. This is the time to look at those who are standing by your side firmly. Those who are checking on you. Calling you. Making sure you are ok. Pulling you out of debts as well as depression.
You are already trying to get your life back on track. Low self esteem, mood swings, frequents upsets and disapppontments, rejections and defeat. You are facing all of this, while knowing in your core subconcious that this is all a passing phase. Why get bogged down with the additional heart break and pain of losing a few "friends"?
It really isn't worth bothering about. Now you know who is truly important in life and who isn't. Be happy that this truth is out.
Focus on what matters. Meditate. Keep a gratitude journal. As often as possible, write in this journal about what you are thankful for.
- A roof over our heads, basic sustenance, few people who truly love us, the fact that we are still alive and breathing, good health - Be Grateful. Because so many of us don't have even this much.
You know how it is. It is just a passing phase. It will go away and bring back the cheer and joy. You know you are capable and hard working. You know you will regain your prosperity and abundance. Focus on how to achieve those goals and say thanks for what you have.
I have started thanking the "friends" who abandoned me. That was a much needed wake-up call. Because when I am back in charge, these are the people who won't be able to fool me with their niceties and diplomacy. I am grateful to the Universe for giving me the wisdom and fortitude to stay strong and charge ahead despite everything going wrong.
God will only give you what you can handle. All aspects of life - joy, surprise, sorrow, hardships, success, defeat, riches, poverty, excitement, anxiety - you name it! He doesn't give what we cannot handle.
This means, those people who are going through rough times now are capable of getting over this and getting their mojo back. They won't face anything beyond what is bearable. It does feel unbearable now, but trust the process. Don't lose faith. Focus on what matters.
We will all conquer the demons. Or maybe throw a party with them to show we are not scared of them! But the demons are not winning, that's for sure. Stay strong.
A big thank you to all those who are my pillars. The true friends I have been blessed with. I am truly grateful that we met. And I promise to be by your side, too. Always!
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A truth, well articulated!
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